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Low sexual desire at any age can be frustrating, but there are so many reasons a woman may lose her libido. It could be something simple (maybe you’re just not into him/her?) or sadly complicated (a medical issue requiring surgery). There are plenty of effective counter measures to alleviate any number of problems, from vaginal dryness to mood swings, when it comes to a hampered sex drive. The real difficulty is identifying what exactly is holding the libido back!
When life is stressful, the body operates differently, way less effectively. So the first place to start when examining sexual drive is measuring anxiety in your daily routine. Working long days can leave you emotionally and physically drained, which inhibits to the oh-so-sensitive libido. If you have a big presentation coming up or a highly charged event such as an annual review, your stress triggers will send out unhelpful hormones. If your libido is negatively affected during these times, don’t worry. When the stress in your world lets up, desire blooms.
A healthy body ready for sexual activity is also a necessary component for natural born lust. Insufficient exercise has more than an impact on your weight; gaining pounds gives you a sex disadvantage. The more inert the body, the less high-end hormonal output you can expect, such as the surges that occur when exercising. If you have a low libido and are not working out regularly, try hitting the gym!
You can’t underestimate the power of emotion. Your complicated brain has all sorts of neural pathways sending out signals that are related to your love life. When your heart is broken, your sex drive is not likely to send out sparks in general. A bad breakup or the loss of a loved one means all bets are off when it comes to libido. There is nothing like a major depression to destroy the body-mind connection to your sexual needs.
Of course, any pain associated with sex may result in negative associations that dampen desire. Sometimes coaxing the libido to kick into gear is quite important for women...men, perhaps not as much! Using lubricants or sex toys to jump start arousal can be exactly the inspiration a body needs. On the other hand, if you experience discomfort during sexual activity, well, sometimes, you just have to speak to a doctor. Low libido related to menopause, for example, can be treated with the right medication. Speaking of which, the medications you take can certainly change things up – that’s an additional conversation to have with your doctor. Some little pills have side effects that can depress biological desire. It’s crucial to consider all aspects of your health when dealing with a low libido.
One more thing to love about the aging process is an overall reduction of lusty inclinations. It happens slowly as we get older. A lessened sex drive is the not end of things though, whether it is an emotional or medical issue, or merely the natural passing of time, there is often a solution out there. Now that you know the problem, you can start looking for the answer!